It is often said that women in particular are bad at putting their own health in front of their family – this may be true, but in these days of a more balanced family responsibility perhaps that can be said for men as well. The fact is however, if you don’t work on keeping yourself emotionally strong, then you cannot be there to support your family as efficiently (oh no it’s a chicken and egg situation!!). In that case perhaps you should do some work today on keeping your emotional health strong.
How do you do that? Well for one give yourself a chance and accept that you are perhaps asking more of yourself than you can deal with at this moment in time. Forgive yourself for being under par perhaps. In the same way you would forgive a child for smearing chocolate over the kitchen and themselves, just because it felt good to see them laugh. Remember laughing? – this in itself is part of that emotional nurturing.
So today try the following:
1. STOP focussing on the things you cannot do. Focus only on things you CAN DO today, and perhaps over the next few days (let’s walk before we run).
2. Make a list of the things you CAN DO, along with what you need to help you achieve them and perhaps a timetable to achieve them by. Keep your focus on these things and tick them off when they are done (in itself this can be very satisfying). If your targets need to be moved then do so and feel confident in that choice, this is a plan which should always remain fluid.
3. Make it a policy to sit down one night a week and do this exercise so that you focus on the short term things you CAN ACHIEVE.
4. SPEAK to someone – whether it is a friend, partner, family member or Coach/therapist. Just having this conversation with someone who can perhaps help you to see things more clearly, will help you to stop feeling alone in your overwhelm, and you never know their suggestions (which you can choose to undertake or not) may give you a different perspective and perhaps some different options.
Doing this on a regular basis you will find focuses your mind and calms things down. It will also mean that you can start to focus on the longer game as each achieved goal slips into place.
You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to be in the best emotional health you can, so start right now, today, remember you are not alone.
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